Healing is Patience

I remember when I first began my healing process I thought it wouldn't take long to get through the process and reclaim a healthy outlook on life. I had spoken to many other survivors who had only taken a couple of years to progress to a point where they took their lives back fully and I believed them. I couldn't understand how they could be so strong and so willing to heal.

For myself, it took many years to progress. I became highly frustrated, and I wanted to give up so many times because the pain and the depression was like a rope tightening around my neck each year. I thought of myself as a failure because I wasn't as strong as I had seen other people be and I thought I would never reach a point where I was okay with myself.

I started speaking to more survivors throughout the years and I realized that we all heal differently. Some of us take a couple of years to progress in our healing and some of us take a lifetime. Some of us don't even begin the healing process until we're well into our 30's, 40's, 50's or 60's because we were raised to ignore the problem. "We didn't talk about these issues back in the day" is probably one of the biggest remarks I have heard. No wonder we are only just beginning to acknowledge the pain.

I've learned that all healing is patience, you have to be patient with yourself. If it takes years you will come out of this a better more healthier you. It doesn't make you a failure to have taken such a long journey, it makes you a winner. Be gentle with yourself, trust the process, open up to who you are and allow yourself all the time you need to heal from your trauma. There are no time limits on healing yourself and you are no different than anyone else because there are countless others who fill your shoes as well.

Healing is patience, you are not alone on this journey.

Love & Support, Haullie